Trying To Date After An Abusive Relationship. But after some time of mentoring survivors, i've found many similarities between other survivors' emotional experiences and my own. Try taking your kids along to stay at your mom’s or a friend’s place for at least a month.

Recovery has no timetable and pressure to date after narcissistic abuse can add to the emotional turmoil you feel after the relationship ends and the feeling that there’s something wrong with you that was implanted by the narcissist. Considering the fact that my first serious relationship was an emotionally abusive one that took almost everything i had to leave, i am still a little wary of just effortlessly “jumping back in” the dating pool—always on alert for the swipe, swipe, sting. After you’ve survived an abusive relationship — even after years or decades have passed — the effects of that trauma can still linger.

This isn’t meant to scare you.

Fear of the unknown is a factor in whether or not someone leaves their abuser. You aren’t used to being treated so well, you almost reject it. Trust eludes victims of abuse during their abusive relationship. We still carry some of the scars of abuse leftover from the bad relationship.